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That being said, there are five pieces of advice I’ve used in my own life that I think every RM, and really, every single adult, could use to vastly improve their dating experience and make it more enjoyable for all involved. When I graduated from high school and was starting college, I was immediately overwhelmed by neighbors and ward members who told me, “Now you’ve got to get married!” It influenced my dating life so much that it made me miserable.I ended up dating guys who were in no way compatible or right for me. Some of you probably expected (or expect) marriage to just happen once you started dating, and you’ve likely found that that’s not how it works.Others of you have perhaps jumped into serious relationships that did not end well because you were more concerned with getting married than actually loving the person you dated.
“Making up for what you lost in two years of famine,” as a mission is sometimes referred to, is reckless and selfish, and it can lead to greater mistakes down the road. Probably the toughest thing about dating for most of us is worrying about committing to the wrong person.In this instance, you have to think of dating in terms of teaching the gospel.As member missionaries (and I’m sure as sisters/elders), we are taught that the most inefficient and, in many instances, uncaring thing we can do for those not of our faith is to confront them with why they need to join the church before we even get to know them.I took every date seriously, and when it didn’t work out, my confidence took a major hit.
I naively expected that marriage would be handed to me if I simply went on dates, and because I expected that, I made marriage far more important than getting to know the guys I dated.
No, it doesn’t matter if you have only been home for a few hours, everyone will want to know when you are getting married.